Six ways to make people like you.
Rule 1:
Become genuinely interested in other people
1) "Do this and you will be welcomed anywhere."
2) "You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interest in you"
3) "Ask question to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering"
This quote is stating that you have to show interest in what others think or expect about something.
If you want someone to like you, its good to say your opinion something you disagree with, but you have to be able to say it in a respectful way.
Rule 2:
Smile
1) "Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, "I like you. "You make me happy. I am glad to see you."
2) "You don't feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile."
3) " It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends."
This quote is stating that with a smile you are able to hide anything. A smile with no words has different meanings. Which means that smiling can cause you to hide inner feelings. Yes a smile can also interpret good consent. Like for example if you're applying for a job a smile can show that you are friendly and eligible to work with others. It can also say that you are happy to be in the environment you're in.
Rule 3
Remember Names
1) "A man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."
2) "If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble."
This quote means that if you remember peoples names its easier to get to know them and or speak to them. To know the names of people shows that your interested in what they have to say or do. Showing interest is also one important thing you have to do in order for you to make friends. When someones says hi and you don't remember their names it just makes them feel unimportant.
Rule 4
Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
1) "If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener."
2) "Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself, his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems."
This quote means that in order to make friends you have to be a good listener. You have to be able to make connections with the person and have an open mind towards what they are saying. Being a good listener can also lead you to learn much about a person by the way they speak, their tone, and the way they express themselves about something. When you encourage someone to talk about themselves you make them feel important and you put an impression of empathy towards them.
Rule 5
Talk in terms of the other man's interests.
1) "The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures the most."
This quote is saying that you should let the person talk about their interests. Be attentive to what they are saying. to win over the friendship of someone. You have to welcome them to make everything about them for a while. Once you know what they're interests are, you will be able to agree and find some qualities that you both have in common. When the person realizes that you truly are interested in learning more about them, everything else will come easy.
Rule 6
Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely.
1) "The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature."(John Devey)"Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic"
Making others feel important is a special way of showing that you care. Showing importance also shows that you are willing to try and make a new friend. Feeling important can make someone give you their trust but only if they feel that you are sincere. Sincerity has a lot to do with how you treat a person. For example if someone asks you to do something and you say yes sincerely, they would be appreciated and grateful but if you do it with a bad mood and making a face they know that next time they wont count on you.
Final Reflection:
I Think that these six ways are a good way and good advice to take into consideration when wanting to have a friend.
